Hi ladies. Not sure who is still reading this blog haha.
Nope, I don’t have any health or medical issues so far alhamdulillah. Just wondering if anyone can share what kinds of medical checkups or women’s health-related issues I should now look out for?
For example, I know sexually active women should go for pap smears (kan?) hahaha so noob omg. I remember my doc was talking about HPV too. I don’t have a gynae right now too, so was wondering if anyone has any recommendations too?
We are also not trying to conceive at the moment (hopefully by end of the year or early next year though insyaAllah), but I just want to make sure everything is OK with the both of us health-wise before we start anything.
Not to mention, there seems to be a whole host of changes to my body now that we are legally and Syariah-ly sexually active *cringe* lolz that I never thought could happen (like apparently, you can be more prone to painful periods if you did not achieve orgasm during intercourse — if you already experience cramping during periods).
I feel so ill-prepared in this sector. I feel like we should have been taught about this in the sex ed syllabus in school, like where to go for such information. There’s nothing like “Planned Parenthood” in Singapore; they always just say, “consult your GP”. But what if you don’t want to, or if you are not comfortable with talking to your GP. Then you have to search through hospital and private care clinic websites etc., and even those have limited information and little to no information on prices or how to pay for the services etc. Not to mention the whole barrage of misinformed adults who give incorrect and unsolicited advice -.-
AND DEFINITELY NOT THE “BASES” BEFORE YOU REACH INTERCOURSE, AND ALL THE REGRET YOU WILL FEEL IF YOU HAVE PRE-MARITAL SEX, THEN LET’S ALL SING ABOUT HOW WE WILL KEEP OURSELVES CHASTE BEFORE MARRIAGE!
My JC sex ed syllabus was so “Charismatic Christian” please I cannot take it. Like hello, your Chinese kids are obviously already experimenting, they just don’t tell you; and a lot of people in your Chinese population are getting married very, very late, you think their sexual desires can wait until they get married in their 30s meh?
I don’t condone underage or premarital sex, and yes I do agree with having sex ed in school, but they definitely should NOT teach us what they have been teaching us all this while. Instead, what about the different problems with menstruation (like hello there are a lot more than just choosing the right pads and not staining the bed when you go to sleep), and the changes in lifestyle or responsibilities that the individual who has had sex has had to do now that they have made the choice to engage in the activity — e.g. money spent on contraceptives, sexual healthcare checkups, being disciplined in using contraceptives or talking about a new partner’s sexual history before engaging in said activity, etc. Maybe, the moment these kids realise how much RESPONSIBILITY is involved in being sexually active, they would definitely be turned off the idea, because kids these days are allergic to responsibility right. LOL I know I would be. Heck, I am slightly turned off.
So yep, please help a sister out, if anyone is still reading this.
Hopefully I will go back to wedding-related posts when I get my photos and videos? Banyak nak cakap actually but little to no good photos to illustrate anything hahaha. So I shall wait ya.